Open House: Frequently Asked Questions

Casa Kink
Jul 15
5 min read

Updated: Aug 1

A playful guide to Open House, a Casa swinging event.

Curious about Open House? You're not alone. As we run up towards opening the doors to our Open House event, we've had a lot of questions. Whether you’re single, partnered, new or experienced, or just exploring, we want you to feel excited and informed. Here’s what you need to know:

So… what is Open House?

Open House is Cape Town's new inclusive swinging event. It’s a night of music, mingling, movement, and optional play, designed for people who enjoy open sexual engagements in all the delicious forms. No pressure, no assumptions, just open minds and sexy vibes.

Who comes to Open House?

People of all genders, orientations, and relationship styles. We welcome:

Couples exploring together
Solo swingers of all genders
Polycules and open lovers
Curious newcomers

We prioritise a consent-forward, welcoming space, where everyone feels seen and respected.

Is this a play party?

Absolutely yes, and not necessarily. The space is set up to create opportunities for connection and play in a zero pressure environment. Some people come to flirt, dance, and watch. Others come ready to connect. Everyone moves at their own pace, and we support that fully.

Can I come solo?

Absolutely. Open House is not just for people who are partnered - in fact, we specifically welcome solo guests of all genders. Our team and community are intentional about helping people feel included and safe, not singled out.

Do you have different prices and ticket allocation by gender?

We believe in ungenedered pricing, every person pays the same amount for their ticket. We do offer discounts for groups of 2 or 3 booking together. In terms of ticket allocation we release limited numbers of single male tickets. This is done in order to limit an over offering of men at the event which would leave these men with limited connection opportunities. For every few couple or single femme tickets we sell we release more single male tickets. If you attempt to buy a single male ticket and they are sold out, we would advise checking back regularly to catch further releasses of tickets.

Is it LGBTQIA+ friendly?

Very much yes. Open House was created with inclusive sexuality and kinkiness in mind. Everyone is welcome and supported to feel a part of the vibe and fun.

What if something makes me uncomfortable?

If at any stage you find ourself uncomfortable, simply move away from the discomfort. Basically if you don't like the way other people are having sex around you, go somewhere where you are more comfortable. And do not make people having sex feel self conscious about their sexual expression.

What happens on the night?

Expect:

Spacious social area
Sexy music and dance floor
Fire Massages to ignite your skin (and your curiosity)
Flirty games, connection corners, and space to play (or just sip a drink and watch)
6 x Private and semi-private play spaces
2 x Tantric chairs (we know it's always a hit)
Voyeur / Exhibitionist space
Fuckle Puddle, a shared space for sex, it's been known to turn into an orgy room
Rope and Wax Experiences

What are the rules?

We’re big on consent, communication, and care. Some of our core guidelines:

Bring an Open Mind

No expectations. No pressure. Play is always optional.Each room has its own vibe, respect the signs.

Consent is Mandatory

· Only an enthusiastic yes counts.

· No means no. Maybe means no.

· Consent Monitors wear red light armbands, ask for help any time. Call “Red!” if urgent.

· Coercion, pressure, or guilt-tripping? Hard no.

· Femme folks have final say in couple-play decisions.

· You can change your mind at any time, respect that.

· Never touch, join in, or watch without asking.

· Closed doors or curtains? Leave them be.

· Voyeurism is welcome only where allowed, ask first, and keep your distance.

· Ask before touching toys. Clean after use.

Clear Communication

· Set boundaries with your partner(s) before the night.

· Check in with them during the night too.

· Be honest about what you’re into, and what you’re not.

· Respect all limits without question or judgment.

🐶 Dog Ribbon – Friendly, up for play, loves being approached.🐱 Cat Ribbon – Aloof, curious, prefers to approach you.🐦 Bird Ribbon – Watching from afar, might swoop in… or not.

Respect Everyone

· No shaming, rudeness, or gossip.

· Keep what happens here private.

· Be kind, interest is nice, but entitlement isn’t.

· Don’t be an asshole.

Hygiene & Safer Sex

· Arrive clean and fresh, basic decency.

· Use the condoms, internal condoms & lube we provide.

· Don’t pressure anyone to skip protection, again, don’t be an asshole.

Substances

· Alcohol, 420, and poppers are allowed.

· No illegal drugs.

· Messy or unsafe intoxicated behaviour = removal and possible ban.

Respect the House

· Clean up your play space.

· Use bins for condoms/wrappers/puppy pads.

· Change dirty sheets; laundry baskets provided.

· Treat furniture, spaces, and people with care.

· Report issues to Consent Monitors (red armbands) or staff.

What should I wear?

Please dress in a way that makes you feel sexy and empowered. Each event has a theme which we encourage people to dress to. We have a small dressing room if you would prefer to put on your revealing outfits inside. We will also have a coat check if you go with the option of covering up on the way in. There are small lockers, if you'd like to lock away your items please bring a small padlock.

It's winter, are we going to freeze?

We have small heaters in the private spaces, so each can be temperature controlled separately. The fuckle puddle is maintained a lovely temperature aimeed to get those layers off and all the open spaces are heated with gas heaters. We have blankets for cuddling too, if you don't fancy putting the clothes back on.

How do I get in?

Tickets are available at casakinkza.com/event. We have options for singles, couples and throuples because we know one size never fits all.

Any tips and advice for making connections at the event?

Remember to treat each person you engage with as a whole person, they are not sex dispensers. Start by making introductions before making moves. A name and a smile go a long way. Approach people to talk to them. Actually engage, "nice to meet you", "have you been to many parties". If they are responding warmly you can move that up with questions like, "what are you into", "what are you looking for". Compatability in what you're all seeking will result in great play.

I’m nervous. Is that normal?

Totally. Going somewhere new, or planning to try something new can feel intimidating, especially when desire is on the menu. But you’re in good company. Many people come for the first time not knowing what to expect—and leave with new friends, new sparks, and a smile they can’t quite explain.